Deborah Tannen Quotes


15 Deborah Tannen quotes:



"Part of the reason (motherly advice) bugs us as daughters is because our mothers are so powerful in our lives. They loom like giants. The reason mothers keep at it is because they're so powerless. They cannot get you to do what is so obvious to them you should do."
Author: Tannen Quotes Category: Advice Quotes
"Relationships are made of talk - and talk is for girls and women."
"Each underestimates her own power and overestimates the other's."
"We all know we are unique individuals, but we tend to see others as representatives of groups."
"Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone."
"Each person's life is lived as a series of conversations."
"We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has."
"For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships."
"The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation - or a relationship."
"[T]he seeds of [the Argument Culture] can be found our classrooms, where a teacher will introduce an article or an idea . . . setting up debates where people learn not to listen to each other because they're so busy trying to win the debate."
Author: Tannen Quotes Category: Culture Quotes
"The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation -- or a relationship."
"When people realize that in the long run you may be turning off the audiences more, even though they will look temporarily--in the end they turn away, we really need to develop other metaphors and not talk about two sides, but talk about all sides."
Author: Tannen Quotes Category: Audiences Quotes
"Saying that men talk about baseball in order to avoid talking about their feelings is the same as saying that women talk about their feelings in order to avoid talking about baseball"
Author: Tannen Quotes Category: Baseball Quotes
"Many of us dismiss talk that does not convey important information as worthless - meaningless small talk if it's a social setting or "empty rhetoric" if it's public. Such admonitions as "Skip the small talk, " "Get to the point," or "Why don't you say what you mean?" may seem to be reasonable. But they are reasonable only if information is all that counts. This attitude toward talk ignores the fact that people are emotionally involved with each other and that talking is the major way be establish, maintain, monitor and adjust our relationships."
Author: Tannen Quotes Category: Information Quotes
"Saying that men talk about baseball in order to avoid talking about their feelings is the same as saying that women talk about their feelings in order to avoid talking about baseball."
Author: Tannen Quotes Category: Romance Quotes



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